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Subject: It it too late bourbon?! please respond!
Posted by Julie on August 29, 1998 at 00:29:09:
In Reply to: slow down a little posted by Bourbon on August 29, 1998 at 00:01:22:
So bourbon is it too late for me to get her to trust me? I'm going to slow it down like you said but I should still take her out in the daytime? Also bourbon can I pleaaase have your e-mail address or something? I have america online too so I can talk to you on im sometime about these things. well thanks.. -Julie
: Julie Don't get me wrong here, cause I may sound a little harsh, so I am letting you know now that is not my intentions. Okay lets start with what you are saying.. am I to assume you had both the tee and the booty sock in there? after all we are only talking a week here. Go back and print out the post I made on the t shirt thing.. You must have more than 1 pocket tee and it must be changed EVERY day..Now as far as why she crabs..well as I said before she doesn't feel safe yet. she must really feel safe with you.. I may sound a little possessive her but you are working with a tiny little baby in a very strange enviroment (not to you, but to Kit) You are a giant to her. Look at the size difference..You must make her feel safe and secure, and at this time she doesn't feel that way with you.. here you said.."whenever I take her out she is always in her booty sock and she starts crabbing at
: me..","She does this EVERY time I take her out ", "Then every time I move she crabs.", "Also at night when she wakes up I approach the cage and she runs in her booty sock ", "she runs around my room totally ignoring me. " these are your words, when you look at them now, you can see that she feels safe in her booty sock, but, not with you just yet.. Leave her in the cage for a few days.. let her feel safe, talk to her often softly, look in on her, let her see you and hear you. Give her treats everytime you walk near her cage. Open the door to do it. If she crabs let her, she ain't hurting nuttin.. all she is saying is that she is scared.. when you said." then I pet her and talk to her in a soft voice and she stops crabbing... looks at me for a second and then slowly closes her eyes while looking at me." That should tell you that she is starting to trust you but she is still insecure. SHE needs to build a trust FOR you.. You have to wait for that to happen on her time at her pace. It is easy for a human to learn to trust at such a young age, but animals are different, you have to let her build it, she should learn but if you rush it you will be doing more harm than good. If you try to force her to trust you, she may end up resenting the time out. Give her a few days in the cage, spend as much time with her in her space as SHE needs..Love her and wait for her, she will love you yet.. but remeber that she has to learn to trust you, don't blow that trust. Make her feel as safe and as secure as she needs to feel.. Protect her from strange scents, faces, and noises. protect her from anything that may scare her,.always speak to her and let her know she is worth the wait..
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